Lesbian Couples Institute

  Here at The Lesbian Couples Institute (LCI), we are super excited to be offering online lesbian relationship coaching to lesbians and queer women all over the world. If you’re looking for support and guidance from an expert that’s also in the lesbian community, you’re in luck. Our coaches are part of the community. And each coach understands from her own life experience what most of the struggles are all about. You can feel completely confident that the coaches at LCI won’t judge you or get weirded out by anything you want to share. Whether you and your partner are looking for skillful guidance to improve your relationship or you want individual coaching, we are here to help. You can get online relationship coaching at LCI as a couple to help you with issues such as: Communication problems Distance and loneliness Walking on eggshells Endless arguments Not feeling appreciated Intimacy Insecurity and trust Boundaries And you can also work with a coach one-on-one. Even if your par...

  Are you stuck in fear? If you’re like a lot of women in same-sex relationships, your fears are probably keeping you from having the courage to share your cravings with your partner. And maybe even with yourself. Without knowing and expressing your desires to your partner, you risk ending up with a shallow, listless, stagnant relationship and life. Yuck! Fears are normal feelings. But left to run amok, they can rob you of joy, creativity, and designing a life that satisfies your cravings. You can get unstuck from your paralyzing fears and move toward what you crave by having the guts to do a simple exercise with your partner. I invite you to speak your truth . Give one another a valuable gift, today, by sharing your fears and cravings in a non-threatening way. Carve out some time to have a real talk about your fears and cravings. Take turns. And practice both sides of good communication : Steady vulnerability (when you’re the one opening up) Radical curiosity (when you’re liste...

TLC IS A PROVEN RELATIONSHIP COURSE FOR LESBIAN COUPLES THAT WANT MORE CONNECTION AND BETTER COMMUNICATION! Ready to take your relationship from disconnected, misunderstood, and stuck to reconnected, happy, and alive? You can make your relationship thrive, again, in just 10 weeks! Or are you in a newish relationship, and you both want to break the old patterns of blah, painful, or failed relationships from your past? By committing to this 10-week course you will create a strong foundation of security so that you’ll have confidence that this one will last! THIS COURSE IS DESIGNED FOR BUSY COUPLES THAT KNOW THEY NEED EXPERT GUIDANCE TO CREATE THE RELATIONSHIP THEY LONG FOR. Best of all, TLC is An On-Demand, From Anywhere Relationship Transformation Training Course. You can be in your pj’s eating popcorn when you work on your relationship! It doesn’t get easier than that. The TLC Course is for lesbian couples who are BOTH 100% committed to creating a joyful, secure, thriving relationship...

  Most of the lesbian couples that reach out to do couples counseling with me say that one of their biggest relationship issues is COMMUNICATION. Can you relate? If so, you’re definitely not alone. It’s supper common for couples (yes, even lesbian couples) to struggle with communication. THERE ARE A COUPLE OF TYPICAL WAYS THAT THESE PESKY COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS SHOW UP Do you and your partner go round and round about the same topics and never get anywhere new? Do you end up frustrated or angry, feeling like she doesn’t listen or really hear what you’re saying? Afterward, do you ever want to crawl in a hole because you said some mean or hurtful things to the woman you love? Feeling sad that you can’t hit a rewind button and change what you said. Or would you say more of your issues result from the communication affliction of avoidance? You know, where you work hard to avoid having difficult discussions, because you don’t want to end up fighting. So you never (or at least rarely) spe...

  Want to know how to shift your lesbian relationship from disconnected to connected, fast? It’s easier than you think. The key is to tune in to your honey like you probably haven’t in quite a while. If you’re like me, you might occasionally catch yourself going through the day on auto-pilot. Sometimes (ok, pretty often), I’ll be having dinner with my partner and I’ll suddenly realize that she’s in the middle of a story. It’s like her voice starts to fade-in mid-paragraph, and I realize I missed the whole first part. Yikes! Then I have to eat crow and ask her, “Babe, could you say that first part again? I missed it.” I can assure you that at that moment, my partner feels dropped. Disconnected. And so do I. An occasional moment of disconnection is normal and doesn’t ruin couples. But if those moments are chronic and happen all the time…well, it can make you wonder if you’re even in the right relationship. The solution isn’t to bail, to get out. The fix is to make a commitment to tun...

  I know firsthand how easy it can be to fall into a deep and harmful relationship rut. Between work, family, and all of life’s many obligations, it’s easy to put ‘intentional connection with our partner’ on the bottom of our priority list. I also know that avoiding opportunities to connect regularly with your partner can lead to resentment and estrangement in your partnership. I decided to make a list of ten ways to warm up your relationship and rekindle the connection that may have gotten lost in the day-to-day routines of your life. And the best part is they are easy and effective! So, take five minutes and find out how you can instantly connect with your partner and bring back the warmth, joy, and happiness you both crave and deserve! Ten Quick Tips to Warm Up Your Relationship Tip #1: Remind Yourself: She’s Friend, NOT Foe! It’s easy to feel like you and your partner are on opposite teams, or worse, that she’s the enemy. Especially if you’re feeling disconnected, resentful, or...

  Lots of articles, blogs, and books have been written about how to solve communication problems in marriages and intimate relationships. Yet…95% of the lesbian couples I work with tell me that communication is one of their biggest issues (if not THE biggest issue) that keeps them from feeling happy and at ease in their relationship. Most therapists, coaches, and relationship experts teach that good communication hinges on the speaker keeping her focus on herself and the listener practicing active listening. In other words, they teach that the speaker ought to use I statements and the listener should parrot back what they’ve heard. I’ll admit those are a couple of good suggestions. However, they will not solve your communication woes. Now that I have 25 years of couples counseling experience, a doctorate in Marriage Therapy, and hundreds of hours studying with the top experts in the field, I’ve come to realize that there’s one key ingredient that results in excellent commu...

  A few days ago, I snuggled up on the couch with my partner and we watched Speak Your Truth. We were both captivated as we watched this lovely documentary featuring nine brave and delightful women. I don’t want to ruin the movie for you by saying too much. (Really, you should watch it. But finish reading this article first.) So I’ll just tell you that in Speak Your Truth these women are refreshingly open and vulnerable. Did I mention brave? They all share their stories about being in heterosexual marriages, discovering their feelings for women, coming out, and changing their lives. And they talk candidly about their personal challenges and victories along the way. All nine of these women speak their truth. Both in the documentary and in their lives. Many of these women found that working with an LGBT therapist was key. As you can guess from the title, a strong theme that weaves through the backdrop of the film is the importance of speaking your truth. In fact, the message in the ...